20: PowerLESS Love

4/25/19

Making our love powerLESS rather than powerFULL. That’s what we’re up to today. In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why it’s important to strip control and power out of the way we love;
• What all of this has to do with love and justice.
• Nine specific strategies to help you remove power and control from your love and relationships:
  1. Create Shared Power
  2. Agreements > Expectations
  3. Apologize
  4. Give Up: The “Right Way”
  5. Less Critique
  6. Heal Resentment
  7. Tell The Truth
  8. Give Fewer Opinions
  9. Accepting Out-Of-Controlness

Reflection Questions on Creating Shared Power

• Where can i create more shared power in important relationships?
• What decisions can I co-author with those most impacted by them?
• Where am i assuming responsibility for something that I could be co-creating and co-designing?

Reflection Questions on Giving Up “The Right Way”

• What do you currently approach at work that you believe is the “right” way (or the “better” or “most appropriate” way) of doing things?
• How are you teaching your kids that there’s a “right way” to do something through control?
• Where do you assert a “right way” onto others (especially without naming it)?

Reflection Questions on Healing Resentments

• List your resentments (the person, the hurt, the specific resentment you’re holding onto).
• How am I benefitting by holding onto this resentment?
• If I let go of this resentment, what might I feel in it’s place? What might emerge instead?

Welcome to a conversation about making love through letting go of power.

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